Avoiding Recycled Conflict
arguing is not a bad thing! well…as long as it doesn’t look ugly, always end without resolution or create more distance between you and your partner.
conflict is an inevitable part of a healthy relationship. it means we are comfortable sharing our differences. we don’t feel we always have to play it safe.
but when conflict recycles itself it can feel like we are arguing without any benefit. when couples only vommit on each other and fail to connect the dots between their concerns and their actions then they are not taking advantage of the point of conflict- to better understand one another.
recycled conflict is often a product of rigid thinking. getting some support from a relationship coach can help you get unstuck from patterns that have a way of continuing to accidentally harm our relationships. when working with an online relationship coach, you will quickly be able to learn where and how you get stuck. more importantly, i can help you break these patterns so that you do not keep recycling old issues.
as a relationship coach and marriage & family therapist in west hartford, ct, i work closely with couples to help them move beyond these arguments by making better sense of them so that they do not continue to zap the good energy from your time together. and more importantly i teach couples how to learn how to love lighter. this means not working harder, but working lighter….
